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Let me know, Mehwaish Raja Director Garderie Kiddy Kat 514-685-7053 On Mon, Jan 22, 2024 at 12:36=E2=80=AFPM Will Attar = wrote: > Hi! > > Is it possible to do this in person at the school? > > On Mon, Jan 22, 2024 at 10:41=E2=80=AFAM Mehwaish Raja > wrote: > >> Good Morning Will and Amelie, >> >> We hope you are doing well. We hear your concerns. To further clarify >> this, I think it is best that we speak to each other on the phone. >> >> When is the best time to call you? >> >> I am available to hop on a call from now until 2 pm. >> >> Let me know. >> >> Talk to you soon, >> >> Mehwaish Raja >> >> >> On Sat, Jan 20, 2024 at 1:41=E2=80=AFAM Will Attar wrote: >> >>> Hi, >>> >>> I hope you can understand the position we=E2=80=99re in and our perspec= tive on >>> the matter. Trust is very important here and when it comes to my kid, I >>> can=E2=80=99t accept any assumptions. >>> >>> I appreciate you taking the time to speak with Ms Ghazala. I understand >>> that there=E2=80=99s a long history and it is reassuring that there are= no prior >>> issues or complaints. We=E2=80=99ve spoken to her in the past about not= doing a few >>> things a certain way with Ben, and it didn=E2=80=99t seem to stick, so = hopefully it >>> does if it comes from you. >>> >>> I=E2=80=99d like to reiterate that the questions I=E2=80=99d like to an= swer are: =E2=80=9CWhat=E2=80=99s >>> actually going on here? Why does he have this unique behavior around he= r?=E2=80=9D >>> I want to know what made him develop these emotions to Ms Ghazala and w= hy >>> are they only directed at her. Maybe they=E2=80=99re rational, maybe th= ey=E2=80=99re >>> not; regardless, the emotions and feelings are valid. The request to lo= ok >>> at footage is to see what the whole story is over an extended period of >>> time, not just today. This is something that=E2=80=99s been getting wor= se over >>> months. >>> >>> Since joining Kiddy Kat, many teacher and caregivers have come and gone= , >>> all of whom have interacted with Ben. So far, he has only ever displaye= d >>> these emotions with one person. >>> >>> While it=E2=80=99s possible that there could just be an incompatibility= with Ben >>> and Ms Ghazala, it seems quick to assume that this is the answer to the >>> above questions. I=E2=80=99d rather know for certain that this is actua= lly what=E2=80=99s >>> happening or if there=E2=80=99s something else going on. It would be ir= responsible >>> of me not to ask for a definitive answer. If it=E2=80=99s a conflict of >>> personality, then we should able to see =E2=80=9CWhen Ms Ghazala does x= yz, Ben >>> shows discomfort and is unhappy.=E2=80=9D Something outside of =E2=80= =9Cnormal toddler >>> problem=E2=80=9D. >>> >>> I don=E2=80=99t believe this is a case of separation anxiety at drop of= f. It >>> really is a child not being comfortable with being left alone with this >>> specific adult. You both have seen Ben reluctant to leave at the end of= the >>> day because he=E2=80=99s so happy there, but if she=E2=80=99s the only = adult with him in >>> the evening, there=E2=80=99s no fight to get him to leave. With Ms Taz = in the >>> mornings, it=E2=80=99s rare when he doesn=E2=80=99t want to be dropped = off, and how he acts >>> in those moments really does line up with separation anxiety. He never >>> hides from Ms Taz. >>> >>> At this point, I=E2=80=99m asking for a commitment to do a deeper dive = into >>> investigating this matter. Until I feel we find the source of these >>> emotions and why they=E2=80=99re solely directed at Ms Ghazala, I can= =E2=80=99t leave Ben >>> alone with her. I would be more comfortable dropping him off a bit >>> later or picking him up a bit earlier if it means he=E2=80=99s more com= fortable. >>> >>> >>> I want to be notified ahead of time if Ms. Ghazala is going to be the >>> only caregiver at drop off, as well as the time at which another staff >>> member would show up. For the evenings, I would like to know ahead of t= ime >>> if she will be the only adult there with him, and as of what time she w= ould >>> become the sole caregiver. >>> >>> Ben=E2=80=99s feelings are real and valid. Even if it turns out they mi= ght not >>> be rational, I need to confirm the source of them. I want him to be abl= e to >>> trust his parents and know that we won=E2=80=99t just leave him alone w= ith someone >>> he=E2=80=99s uncomfortable with or afraid to be around. >>> >>> If it turns out it is simply a conflict of personality, and Ms. >>> Ghazala=E2=80=99s adjustment in her approach and interactions with Ben = remove those >>> negative feelings over times, then great. I=E2=80=99d be ecstatic to kn= ow that=E2=80=99s >>> all this is. Until then, I can=E2=80=99t make assumptions that invalida= te his >>> feelings. >>> >>> Until I feel like we know for certain what=E2=80=99s going on, I would = like for >>> Amelie and I to receive these advance notifications via email or text. = I >>> really need to emphasize that not missing these will help keep that >>> necessary trust we have in you. >>> >>> Thanks, >>> >>> Will Attar >>> >>> >>> On Fri, Jan 19, 2024 at 5:01=E2=80=AFPM Mehwaish Raja >>> wrote: >>> >>>> Hi Will and Amelie, >>>> >>>> We hear your concerns. >>>> >>>> Ms. Ghazala has been employed at Kiddy Kat for close to 9 years. She >>>> has all the qualifications necessary to be with a group of children 0-= 6 >>>> (respecting ratios). While she may not be qualified, she has a certifi= cate >>>> daycare program and her first aid and police background check are up t= o >>>> date. >>>> >>>> I have access to the cameras and regularly view them. As per >>>> your request, I reviewed the baby room cam and Ben is happily playing >>>> (January 19 2024). I will be happy to show you next week before you pi= ck up >>>> Ben. As Ms. Marnie suggested, we spoke with Ms. Ghazala to provide her >>>> guidance when receiving Ben. >>>> >>>> This is the first time I am hearing a concern against Ms. Ghazala. We >>>> understand your concerns and will further investigate by >>>> >>>> 1. Viewing the video of January 19 2024 together. >>>> 2. We have addressed this with Ms. Ghazala (I explained to her about >>>> Ben's personality and how she can help him transition into the classro= om at >>>> drop off). >>>> >>>> >>>> If you have any questions or further concerns please do not hesitate t= o >>>> contact me. >>>> >>>> Warm Regards, >>>> >>>> Ms. Mehwaish >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> On Fri, Jan 19, 2024 at 4:18=E2=80=AFPM Will Attar >>>> wrote: >>>> >>>>> Hi Marnie, >>>>> >>>>> Thank you for the explanation. To be honest, I am not assured by your >>>>> response. >>>>> >>>>> It seems like for someone who=E2=80=99s there in case of emergencies = she=E2=80=99s >>>>> there quite often. I would say she=E2=80=99s definitely there on a re= gular basis >>>>> and alone with the children, or at least Ben. If she isn=E2=80=99t a = qualified >>>>> educator, is does she meet the legal requirements and training that >>>>> childcare providers are normally obligated to follow and renew? This >>>>> doesn=E2=80=99t help ease my worry about leaving Ben alone with her a= t all. >>>>> >>>>> I don=E2=80=99t think the issue is that she needs to have Ben=E2=80= =99s temperament or >>>>> character explained to her. In fact, Ben=E2=80=99s character and temp= erament around >>>>> her are unique and the cause of concern. He=E2=80=99s not like this a= bout anyone >>>>> else in our lives. He is truly uncomfortable and scared to be left wi= th >>>>> her. While I=E2=80=99m sure you don=E2=80=99t mean it this way, it se= ems like you=E2=80=99re >>>>> placing the blame/problem on Ben instead of looking into the concern = and >>>>> asking =E2=80=9CWhat=E2=80=99s actually going on here? Why does he ha= ve this unique >>>>> behavior around her?=E2=80=9D I=E2=80=99m sure this is one of the rea= sons why the daycare >>>>> has cameras to begin with. >>>>> >>>>> I hope you understand why I=E2=80=99m still concerned. I am asking ag= ain for >>>>> some sort of investigation or a commit to have a qualified educator p= resent >>>>> anytime she=E2=80=99s there. I need to know that if we have a concern= , you will be >>>>> addressing it with a matching level of concern. >>>>> >>>>> Thanks, >>>>> >>>>> Will Attar >>>>> >>>>> >>>>> On Fri, Jan 19, 2024 at 11:08=E2=80=AFAM Marnie Dideles < >>>>> ad@garderiekiddykat.com> wrote: >>>>> >>>>>> Hi Will and Amelie, >>>>>> >>>>>> Thank you so much for email and for voicing your concern. It's >>>>>> important >>>>>> for us to know that parents feel comfortable to bring up any concern= s >>>>>> they have with their child and our center and we appreciate you. >>>>>> >>>>>> In regards to your concern with Ben and Ms Ghazala, the first thing = I >>>>>> will say is that she is part of our on-call replacement staff and is >>>>>> not >>>>>> with the children on a regular basis. In addition to that, she isn't >>>>>> a >>>>>> qualified educator and so comes from a position of a devoted mom and >>>>>> grandmother. Rest assured that she truly has the children's best >>>>>> intention at heart. >>>>>> >>>>>> However we hear your concerns about how she has been trying to >>>>>> receive >>>>>> him during morning drop off. We will give her more insight on Ben's >>>>>> temperament and character and ensure that she give him a little bit >>>>>> more >>>>>> space in the mornings. We will provide her with additional guidance >>>>>> in >>>>>> different ways to connect with the children without so much physical >>>>>> touch. >>>>>> >>>>>> Again, she is only an on-call replacement staff and so she is only >>>>>> called in times of emergencies. I hope this provides some clarity an= d >>>>>> reassurance. Don't hesitate to reach out should you have any more >>>>>> concerns. >>>>>> >>>>>> Best regards, >>>>>> >>>>>> --- >>>>>> Marnie Dideles; Assistant Director >>>>>> >>>>>> Garderie Kiddy Kat ad@garderiekiddykat.com >>>>>> >>>>>> On 2024-01-19 08:59, Will Attar wrote: >>>>>> > Hi Mehwaish and Marnie! >>>>>> > >>>>>> > I hope everything is well with you this morning. I wanted to raise= a >>>>>> > concern that we've been having lately. >>>>>> > >>>>>> > Usually, Ben is excited to go to school and loves being and kiddy >>>>>> kat. >>>>>> > He's excited to arrive in the morning and see Ms Taz, and at the e= nd >>>>>> > of the day we have to fight him to leave (you've seen it yourself)= . >>>>>> He >>>>>> > loves his teachers, the lessons, the toys, and his love of the >>>>>> daycare >>>>>> > is why we love it. >>>>>> > >>>>>> > The only exception is when it comes to Ms Ghazela. Sorry if that's >>>>>> now >>>>>> > how you spell her name. >>>>>> > >>>>>> > If she's there, Ben has no interest in being in the building. He >>>>>> > cannot get away fast enough. Normally, Ben is usually very friendl= y >>>>>> > and welcoming of people as long as they respect his personal >>>>>> > boundaries and give him space if he wants it. He may start off shy= , >>>>>> > but he quickly warms up and gets back to his playful self. Somethi= ng >>>>>> > about Ms Ghazela makes him incredibly uncomfortable and unhappy. >>>>>> > >>>>>> > I've witnessed a few things I know I haven't been happy with in >>>>>> terms >>>>>> > of her behavior. She's a bit overly affectionate, telling the kids >>>>>> > repeatedly that she loves them and grabbing their faces to give >>>>>> them a >>>>>> > kiss (which I don't think any educator should do to any child, and >>>>>> > I've seen her do it since Ben was a baby). She will also keep >>>>>> > hammering him with questions and overwhelm him when he's focussed = on >>>>>> > something else. At the end of the day he'll want to show us stuff = or >>>>>> > tell us stuff, and she'll keep interrupting him and asking him to >>>>>> say >>>>>> > her name and give her a hug. In the mornings, she'll make stuff up >>>>>> and >>>>>> > try to lure him away from, and then tell us to leave while he's >>>>>> > distracted. We're very much against this (we've told her multiple >>>>>> > times) because this sneaky ditch does nothing to build trust with >>>>>> our >>>>>> > child. >>>>>> > >>>>>> > The disdain that Ben has for her is not normal, and has me very >>>>>> > concerned. It's been going on for a while, but it's only gotten >>>>>> worse. >>>>>> > I'm at the point where I don't know if I can trust leaving Ben wit= h >>>>>> > her in the morning, especially if they're alone. I don't know what= 's >>>>>> > going on and I can't be there to watch. >>>>>> > >>>>>> > I'd like you to please investigate. I can't have a situation like >>>>>> this >>>>>> > where I'm not comfortable with the educator I'm leaving my child >>>>>> with. >>>>>> > I need him to know that I value his safety and comfort, and more >>>>>> > importantly if something is going on, I need to know I raised the >>>>>> > flags and took action instead of brushing it off. Any lack of trus= t >>>>>> in >>>>>> > this situation means I have to consider other early-education >>>>>> options >>>>>> > for Ben. >>>>>> > >>>>>> > I know there are cameras in the daycare, so if possible maybe chec= k >>>>>> > what's going on when she's there in the morning with him. I need >>>>>> > answers or a solution for this, please. >>>>>> > >>>>>> > Thanks for everything you've both done for the kids and the daycar= e >>>>>> so >>>>>> > far. I know there have been a lot of challenges in the past year, >>>>>> but >>>>>> > I do feel like an upward tick is starting for Kiddy Kat. >>>>>> > >>>>>> > Best, >>>>>> > >>>>>> > Will Attar >>>>>> >>>>> >>>> >>>> -- >>>> FOUNDER & DIRECTOR >>>> GARDERIE KIDDY KAT INC. >>>> 7 RUE DU CENTRE COMMERCIAL >>>> >>>> ROXBORO H8Y-2N9 >>>> >>>> www.garderiekiddykat.com >>>> 514-685-7053 >>>> >>>> >>>> >>>> >> >> -- >> FOUNDER & DIRECTOR >> GARDERIE KIDDY KAT INC. >> 7 RUE DU CENTRE COMMERCIAL >> >> ROXBORO H8Y-2N9 >> >> www.garderiekiddykat.com >> 514-685-7053 >> >> >> >> --0000000000005d8265060f8c5366 Content-Type: text/html; charset="UTF-8" Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable
Hi,

Wh= at is the best time today? I will be there from 3 to 4:30.

Let me know,

=


Mehwaish Raja
Director
Garderie Kiddy Kat
514-685-7053


On Mon, Jan 22, 2024 at 12:36=E2=80=AFPM Will= Attar <willyattar@gmail.com= > wrote:
Hi!

Is it possible to do this= in person at the school?

On Mon, Jan 22, 2024 at 10:41=E2=80=AFAM Mehw= aish Raja <garderiekidykat@gmail.com> wrote:
Good Morning Will and Amelie,=C2=A0

We hope y= ou=C2=A0are doing well. We hear your concerns. To further clarify this, I t= hink it is best that we speak to each other on the phone.=C2=A0
<= br>
When is the best=C2=A0time to call you?=C2=A0

<= /div>
I am available to hop on a call from now until 2 pm.=C2=A0
<= div>
Let me know.=C2=A0

Talk=C2=A0to= you soon,

Mehwaish Raja


On Sa= t, Jan 20, 2024 at 1:41=E2=80=AFAM Will Attar <willyattar@gmail.com> wrote:
Hi,

=
I hope you can understand the position we=E2=80=99re in a= nd our perspective on the matter. Trust is very important here and when it = comes to my kid, I can=E2=80=99t accept any assumptions.=C2=A0

I appreciate you taking the time to = speak with Ms Ghazala. I understand that there=E2=80=99s a long history and= it is reassuring that there are no prior issues or complaints. We=E2=80=99= ve spoken to her in the past about not doing a few things a certain way wit= h Ben, and it didn=E2=80=99t seem to stick, so hopefully it does if it come= s from you.=C2=A0

I=E2= =80=99d like to reiterate that the questions I=E2=80=99d like to answer are= :=C2=A0=E2=80=9CWhat=E2=80=99s actually going on here? Why doe= s he have this unique behavior around her?=E2=80=9D I want to know what mad= e him develop these emotions to Ms Ghazala and why are they=C2=A0only directed at her. Maybe they=E2=80=99re rational, maybe they= =E2=80=99re not; regardless, the emotions and feelings are valid. The reque= st to look at footage is to see what the whole story is over an extended pe= riod of time, not just today. This is something that=E2=80=99s been getting= worse over months.=C2=A0

Since joining Kiddy Kat, many teacher and caregivers have come an= d gone, all of whom have interacted with Ben. So far, he has only ever disp= layed these emotions with one person.=C2=A0

While it=E2=80=99s possible that there could just be an= incompatibility with Ben and Ms Ghazala, it seems quick to assume that thi= s is the answer to the above questions. I=E2=80=99d rather know for certain= that this is actually what=E2=80=99s happening or if there=E2=80=99s somet= hing else going on. It would be irresponsible of me not to ask for a defini= tive answer. If it=E2=80=99s a conflict of personality, then we should able= to see =E2=80=9CWhen Ms Ghazala does xyz, Ben shows discomfort and is unha= ppy.=E2=80=9D Something outside of =E2=80=9Cnormal toddler problem=E2=80=9D= .=C2=A0

I don=E2=80=99t believe this is=C2=A0a case of sep= aration anxiety at drop off. It really is a child not being comfortable wit= h being left alone with this specific adult. You both have seen Ben relucta= nt to leave at the end of the day because he=E2=80=99s so happy there, but = if she=E2=80=99s the only adult with him in the evening, there=E2=80=99s no= fight to get him to leave. With Ms Taz in the mornings, it=E2=80=99s rare = when he doesn=E2=80=99t want to be dropped off, and how he acts in those mo= ments really does line up with separation anxiety. He never hides from Ms T= az.=C2=A0

At this point, I=E2=80=99m asking for a commitmen= t to do a deeper dive into investigating this matter. Until I feel we find = the source of these emotions and why they=E2=80=99re solely directed at Ms = Ghazala, I can=E2=80=99t leave Ben alone with her. I=C2=A0would be more comfortable dropping him off a b= it later or picking him up a bit earlier if it means he=E2=80=99s more comf= ortable.=C2=A0

=
I want to be notified ahead of time if Ms. G= hazala is going to be the only caregiver at drop off, as well as the time a= t which another staff member would show up. For the evenings, I would like = to know ahead of time if she will be the only adult there with him, and as = of what time she would become the sole caregiver.=C2=A0

Ben= =E2=80=99s feelings are real and valid. Even if it turns out they might not= be rational, I need to confirm the source of them. I want him to be able t= o trust his parents and know that we won=E2=80=99t just leave him alone wit= h someone he=E2=80=99s uncomfortable with or afraid to be around.=C2=A0

= If it turns out it is simply a conflict of personality, and Ms= . Ghazala=E2=80=99s adjustment in her approach and interactions with Ben re= move those negative feelings over times, then great. I=E2=80=99d be ecstati= c to know that=E2=80=99s all this is. Until then, I can=E2=80=99t make assu= mptions that invalidate his feelings.

Until I feel like we know for certain wha= t=E2=80=99s going on, I would like for Amelie and I to receive these advanc= e notifications via email or text. I really need to emphasize that not miss= ing these will help keep that necessary trust we have in you.=C2=A0<= /div>

Thanks,=C2=A0

Will Attar


On = Fri, Jan 19, 2024 at 5:01=E2=80=AFPM Mehwaish Raja <garderiekidykat@gmail.com>= ; wrote:
Hi=C2=A0Will and Amelie,=C2=A0

We hear your con= cerns.=C2=A0

Ms. Ghazala has been employed at Kidd= y Kat for close to 9 years. She has all the=C2=A0qualifications necessary t= o be with a group of children 0-6 (respecting ratios). While she may not be= qualified, she=C2=A0has a certificate daycare program and her first aid an= d police background=C2=A0check are up to date.=C2=A0

I have access to the cameras and regularly=C2=A0view them. As per your= =C2=A0request, I reviewed=C2=A0the=C2=A0baby room cam and Ben is happily pl= aying (January 19 2024). I will be=C2=A0happy to show you next week before= =C2=A0you pick up Ben. As Ms. Marnie suggested, we spoke with Ms. Ghazala t= o provide=C2=A0her guidance when receiving Ben.=C2=A0

<= div>This is the=C2=A0first time I am hearing a concern against Ms. Ghazala.= We understand your concerns and will further investigate by=C2=A0

1. Viewing the video of January 19 2024 together.=C2=A0
2. We have addressed this with Ms. Ghazala (I explained to her abou= t Ben's personality and how she can help him transition into the classr= oom at drop off).=C2=A0


If you have= any questions or further concerns please=C2=A0do not hesitate to contact m= e.

Warm Regards,

Ms. Mehw= aish=C2=A0



On Fri, Jan 19, 2024 at 4:18= =E2=80=AFPM Will Attar <willyattar@gmail.com> wrote:
=
Hi Marnie,=C2=A0

Thank you for the explanation. To be honest, I am not assured by= your response.=C2=A0

It= seems like for someone who=E2=80=99s there in case of emergencies she=E2= =80=99s there quite often. I would say she=E2=80=99s definitely there on a = regular basis and alone with the children, or at least Ben. If she isn=E2= =80=99t a qualified educator, is does she meet the legal requirements and t= raining that childcare providers are normally obligated to follow and renew= ? This doesn=E2=80=99t help ease my worry about leaving Ben alone with her = at all.=C2=A0

I don=E2= =80=99t think the issue is that she needs to have Ben=E2=80=99s temperament= or character explained to her. In fact, Ben=E2=80=99s character and temper= ament around her are unique and the cause of concern. He=E2=80=99s not like= this about anyone else in our lives. He is truly uncomfortable and scared = to be left with her. While I=E2=80=99m sure you don=E2=80=99t = mean it this way, it seems like you=E2=80=99re placing the blame/problem on= Ben instead of looking into the concern and asking =E2=80=9CWhat=E2=80=99s= actually going on here? Why does he have this unique behavior around her?= =E2=80=9D I=E2=80=99m sure this is one of the reasons why the daycare has c= ameras to begin with.=C2=A0

I hope you understand why I=E2=80=99m still concerned. I am = asking again for some sort of investigation or a commit to have a qualified= educator present anytime she=E2=80=99s there. I need to know that if we ha= ve a concern, you will be addressing it with a matching level of concern.= =C2=A0

Thanks,

Will Attar


On Fri, Jan 19, 2024 at 11:08=E2=80=AFAM Marnie Dideles <ad@garderiekiddykat= .com> wrote:
Hi Will and Amelie,

Thank you so much for email and for voicing your concern. It's importan= t
for us to know that parents feel comfortable to bring up any concerns
they have with their child and our center and we appreciate you.

In regards to your concern with Ben and Ms Ghazala, the first thing I
will say is that she is part of our on-call replacement staff and is not with the children on a regular basis. In addition to that, she isn't a =
qualified educator and so comes from a position of a devoted mom and
grandmother. Rest assured that she truly has the children's best
intention at heart.

However we hear your concerns about how she has been trying to receive
him during morning drop off. We will give her more insight on Ben's temperament and character and ensure that she give him a little bit more space in the mornings. We will provide her with additional guidance in
different ways to connect with the children without so much physical
touch.

Again, she is only an on-call replacement staff and so she is only
called in times of emergencies. I hope this provides some clarity and
reassurance. Don't hesitate to reach out should you have any more
concerns.

Best regards,

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Marnie Dideles; Assistant Director

Garderie Kiddy Kat=C2=A0 ad@garderiekiddykat.com

On 2024-01-19 08:59, Will Attar wrote:
> Hi Mehwaish and Marnie!
>
> I hope everything is well with you this morning. I wanted to raise a > concern that we've been having lately.
>
> Usually, Ben is excited to go to school and loves being and kiddy kat.=
> He's excited to arrive in the morning and see Ms Taz, and at the e= nd
> of the day we have to fight him to leave (you've seen it yourself)= . He
> loves his teachers, the lessons, the toys, and his love of the daycare=
> is why we love it.
>
> The only exception is when it comes to Ms Ghazela. Sorry if that's= now
> how you spell her name.
>
> If she's there, Ben has no interest in being in the building. He > cannot get away fast enough. Normally, Ben is usually very friendly > and welcoming of people as long as they respect his personal
> boundaries and give him space if he wants it. He may start off shy, > but he quickly warms up and gets back to his playful self. Something > about Ms Ghazela makes him incredibly uncomfortable and unhappy.
>
> I've witnessed a few things I know I haven't been happy with i= n terms
> of her behavior. She's a bit overly affectionate, telling the kids=
> repeatedly that she loves them and grabbing their faces to give them a=
> kiss (which I don't think any educator should do to any child, and=
> I've seen her do it since Ben was a baby). She will also keep
> hammering him with questions and overwhelm him when he's focussed = on
> something else. At the end of the day he'll want to show us stuff = or
> tell us stuff, and she'll keep interrupting him and asking him to = say
> her name and give her a hug. In the mornings, she'll make stuff up= and
> try to lure him away from, and then tell us to leave while he's > distracted. We're very much against this (we've told her multi= ple
> times) because this sneaky ditch does nothing to build trust with our<= br> > child.
>
> The disdain that Ben has for her is not normal, and has me very
> concerned. It's been going on for a while, but it's only gotte= n worse.
> I'm at the point where I don't know if I can trust leaving Ben= with
> her in the morning, especially if they're alone. I don't know = what's
> going on and I can't be there to watch.
>
> I'd like you to please investigate. I can't have a situation l= ike this
> where I'm not comfortable with the educator I'm leaving my chi= ld with.
> I need him to know that I value his safety and comfort, and more
> importantly if something is going on, I need to know I raised the
> flags and took action instead of brushing it off. Any lack of trust in=
> this situation means I have to consider other early-education options<= br> > for Ben.
>
> I know there are cameras in the daycare, so if possible maybe check > what's going on when she's there in the morning with him. I ne= ed
> answers or a solution for this, please.
>
> Thanks for everything you've both done for the kids and the daycar= e so
> far. I know there have been a lot of challenges in the past year, but<= br> > I do feel like an upward tick is starting for Kiddy Kat.
>
> Best,
>
> Will Attar


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FOUNDER & DIRECTOR
GARDERIE KIDDY KAT INC.
7 RUE DU CEN= TRE COMMERCIAL
514= -685-7053





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FOUNDER & DIRECTOR
GARDERIE KIDDY KAT INC.
7 RUE DU CEN= TRE COMMERCIAL
514= -685-7053



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